
When the first words of “What A Drag” appeared out of the dry Arizona air, it was a stark realization that things had become irrevocably broken, and he would have to finally face the end of his 11-year relationship. He had touched on the topic in some of the songs on Tearing at the Seams, but with much more diehard-romantic ambivalence, still hanging onto a shred of hope that things might work out.

Quieter, more reflective than the songs he’d written for the Night Sweats album, the piece that became “What a Drag” was a sad confirmation that his marriage had run aground.

But another song managed to creep in that was unlike any of the one’s he’d composed for the Night Sweats’ second effort, signaling that he had other things he wanted to say. In Tucson, Rateliff did manage to write the last few songs for what became the Richard Swift-produced Tearing at the Seams. He thought he was actually sequestering himself to finish writing the last few songs for Nathaniel Rateliff and The Night Sweats’ follow-up album to their self-titled 2015 debut. The good news? Rateliff has moved on, as evidenced by “Kissing Our Friends,” a song he claims is about finally coming to terms with his failed marriage.When Nathaniel Rateliff went to a writing retreat outside of Tucson, Arizona, for 11 days in the spring of 2017, he didn’t know he was starting his third full-length solo album. With lyrics like “I can take the pain, But I can’t take all the hatred,” it’s easy to understand why. It’s surprising and a little unnerving for me to see it now.” Similarly, Rateliff shared that “Time Stand,” a song about his divorce, had him in tears when he finished recording. He said, per his website, “I find out what I’m really thinking when I put it down in a song. “You Need Me” stands out to Rateliff as nothing less than prophetic. “But I was like, ‘Well, I can’t actually say that. “I remember writing the songs in the desert, and it was almost like you’re writing with this prophetic sense, letting your subconscious go places,” he told Esquire. He’s only ever addressed it on his solo album “And it’s Still Alright.” Rateliff and his ex-wife, Jules Bathea-Rateliff, technically split while he was recording the second LP with his band, Nathaniel Rateliff & The Nightsweats, but he didn’t feel ready to address the issue at that time. Rateliff retreated to the desert for a few days to focus and reflect to really dig into the pain. Nathaniel Rateliff hasn’t spoken about his divorce or marriage publicly. Nathaniel Rateliff processed his divorce with music Here’s what we know about the split and how it inspired Rateliff’s music. The greatest change Rateliff faced, though, was the breakup of his marriage which just so happened to coincide with writing the new album, achieving sobriety, and the death of a close friend. The loss inspired many of the songs that appeared on the 2020 solo album, “And it’s Still Alright.” His manager’s death, caused by kidney and liver issues brought on by heavy drinking, has an even more profound effect on Rateliff in that it inspired him to get sober, per The Star. This came on the heels of yet another blow in 2018, his close friend and the manager of Nathaniel Rateliff & The Night Sweats suddenly died.

They’re not.” It was a big move for Rateliff to step away from the people and the musical style that catapulted him to fame in the first place. For one, he split from his band Nathaniel Rateliff & The Night Sweats, or at least took a hiatus. “I did get some random comments where people have been like, ‘Are the Night Sweats done?'” he told Esquire in 2020.

The singer-songwriter has lived through a slew of changes in his personal life. The past few years have been pretty hectic for Nathaniel Rateliff.
